I met THE BEST STORY after the wrong story.*
I tried a lot of online dating sites. I started around April or May 2016. As far as I remember, I first tried Tinder but it doesn’t really have a good impression from other people so my youngest aunt suggested that I tried Skout. I encounter my first batch of “fake news” at these two sites. **
To cut the story short, my fiancé is not my first foreigner/Caucasian boyfriend. He is the second boyfriend I met online and I am bless and thankful he will be the last. He is my third boyfriend. I only had three boyfriends, the first is a Filipino, a long time friend from high school and I was 25 years old already when we became an official couple.****
My second boyfriend is the first bf I had from online dating. I thought he will be the first and last but turned out what I got is another variety of “fake news”.*** But I am thankful to him cause I learned a lot from the two months we were together as a couple, short yet felt really long. I call it my “summer romance” now. LOL.
I met my fiancé in OKCupid. I like that online dating site the most, out of all the dating sites I tried. I’d been using it but no luck before my fiancé and that is why I tried another site suggested by a close friend where she met her boyfriend (now ex too, I guess we both don’t have a luck in that site) and that is where I met my ex.
And oh I dated some Filipinos before dating a Caucasian/foreigner and technically I only dated two Caucasians/foreigners and they both became serious boyfriends for me and now the second and last one, my fiancé .
So as stereotypes goes, do I have hidden agendas on why I had a foreigner boyfriend and a foreigner fiancé now? I don’t really need to explain myself but I am just proud to say that I, we (my fiancé and I) don’t belong to the stereotype, with categories like “old guy foreigner-young Filipina” or “rich guy-poor girl”***** and no I am not against either to those who fall to those categories as long as hopefully they really love each other but even not that is their lives.
My fiancé is two years older than me and we are both mature people who knows what we want in our relationship and life. We are both professionals. He is an engineer and I am a college instructor in a state university here in our province. To be honest, I had always been attracted to fair skinned guys, even my previous Filipino crushes when I was a student and in the entertainment industry are mostly fair skin. I also like the nerdy, shy, introvert type, those who seem smart and really smart. I am most of the time also attracted to slim guys. And all these physical characteristics can be found in my fiancé .
For the non-physical characteristics, I have a complete list of my negotiable’s and non negotiable’s, must’s and must not’s (all of that I will share in another post: https://anglabko.wordpress.com/2018/04/18/how-to-find-your-one-true-love/), that sadly I didn’t follow or used as a guide in choosing my second bf. Returning to good news, all the things in my list are miraculously given to my fiancé . Hallelujah!
Seriously, it is not about his nationality, and even after all the amazing characteristics I am grateful my fiancé have, the most important thing for me is that I feel and see how much he loves me. I promised myself not to be a victim again of one sided love, I already experienced that and I am done with it.
The greatest blessing is knowing that the one I love also loves me.
I did not try online dating cause I have a problem with offline dating. LOL. Technically, later on, you will also date your online date offline/real life. It is just another venue for me. And yes, I tried other venues. I am a believer of not passively waiting. I enrolled in my master’s degree first and foremost for academic improvement but at the back of my mind, I am also hoping to meet someone in the graduate school. I did and they became my good friends but my special someone is not there. I also tried joining a Christian organization and entertaining matches from common friends but I guess that is not how fate wants me to meet the people I need to meet and love and finally my last and greatest love.
I have this thought that if I can put so much effort in other areas of my life such as finding the work I am passionate about and getting it, shouldn’t I put more effort in finding the love of my life?That someone I want to be with forever, in this lifetime. That someone who also wants to grow old with me. That someone who will give me the love I deserve, the same commitment and loyalty I will give. Someone who will not give up on me, on us cause I won’t either. Someone who will always try to work things out. Someone who believes also that love is a choice. Someone I can call my partner. Someone I can love so much without fear cause he so much deserves it. Someone I can call mine and now I do. That someone I have now and I call my dear. My dear engineer. My love. Sinta ko. He is mine as I am his.
Before, I don’t really believe so much in destiny, I believe more that we create our destinies but I think it is God/fate that really brought us together. Yes, we did something too so we can meet but out of all the people online, out of all the people we met, how can I explain that after the long wait, I met him and he showed and proved (and still showing, making me feel) his love for me. I am beyond bless.
Most often than not, we meet our greatest story, after the wrong story/stories.
All the previous stories taught us important lessons that helped us to find the story made for us.
We all create our own story and at the same time it is given by the greatest storyteller. Guiding us how to continue the story He started.
We all want to live the best story we can have.
I now have mine.
I am living mine now.
Letting a new chapter begin.
To be continued…
*There is a play in the words above, a double meaning, that only those who knew me will understand.
** I have another post about the similarities of fake news and fake people you meet online and how you can avoid and protect yourself from it and them.
***Not a fake person or fake profile but faked me for believing he really loves me. Maybe he still believes he did but hopefully he will realized later on what is true love and how to show and prove it.
****I don’t count anymore the guy I dated in college as my first bf cause I don’t think we really had a serious bf/gf relationship in the two months we dated. However, just in case he read this (though most probably he wont): Hi. I know you are happy now and thanks for being nice and for respecting me a lot during my very naive days. LOL.
*****We are not rich but as an only child (not spoiled) my parents see to it that I got everything I need. As a professional, working lady, I am earning more than enough for myself cause I know how to live within my means. Proud to say, pretty independent since college.